I am a grocery store tabloid gossip junkie. I never purchase but I always browse. My guilty pleasure lies in celebrity gossip. I feel such a strong disconnect from the ‘celebrity world’, that I seem to feel no remorse for reading ‘smut’ about the patrons of the entertainment industry. Today I was stopped. Today I was sad for our world and the way we treat each other.
The title read “Stars report cards: Best and worst moms”…Really??
I am not even going to grace these pages with the rating system and grades of each of these moms. Because simply put, it is garbage and not even worth reading.
Regardless of her status in the world (celebrities included) most of us are trying to do doing our best. We are attempting to understand and accomplish this ‘parenting thing’. None of us really know what we are doing. We are going off instinct and common sense. Most of us ‘mama’s’ are navigating a terrain unfamiliar, hoping we can find a path that leads to the least amount of tumbles. We are working hard, balancing lives and babies, hoping to come out unscathed. We are praying we are doing OK, hoping our kids turn out OK and wondering if we will make it through this journey. With all of that, do the mothers of the world really deserve to be judged and grading on our performance?
Mothers of the world, Lets stop this idiocracy! We are the ones giving in to this false sense of ‘what a mother should be doing’. We are the ones buying these tabloids. We are the ones creating the epidemic of ‘competitive mothering’. We are the ones fueling this fire. This behavior is breaking down the souls of our mothers and building walls instead of bridges. We need each other. We need to be a universal team. We need to work hard to create a sense of love and support among our mothers, not resentment and fear of failure.
“When my friends began to have babies and I came to comprehend the heroic labor it takes to keep one alive, the constant exhausting tending of a being who can do nothing and demands everything, I realized that my mother had done all of these things for me before I remembered. I was fed; I was washed; I was clothed; I was taught to speak and given a thousand other things, over and over again, hourly, daily, for years. She gave me everything before she gave me nothing.”
Rebecca Solnit (The Faraway Nearby)
As mothers we are required to give as much as we can to our little ones. This can be a hard, exhausting, overwhelming and life altering experience. Lets be there with a hug, a gentle soul and a open heart for our fellow warriors.